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Sweet, sweet, porn. What geek doesn’t have a hard drive full of it? Unfortunately, we often forget to think about the horrible toll 100GB of porn with midgets and goats can have on our loved ones. Take the case of a woman writing for Divine Caroline who stumbled upon her boyfriend’s cache of pornography bookmarks whilst searching for Christmas presents on his computer.
Given the fact that she has deep feelings for the guy, this discovery lead to a whirlwind of emotions — culminating in an uncomfortable confrontation with her boyfriend. Questions were asked — some of them you would expect: “Are you doing this because you are unhappy sexually with us?” and “Are there things you watch here that you want to do, but have been unable to initiate with me, don�t want to do with me, or that I do not inspire in you?” There were also some questions that were a little unexpected: “Are you looking at anything that involves any kind of violence? Animals?“
The answers to these questions could very well have been a resounding “Yes!” but the boyfriend did his best to alleviate her fears and things seemed to work out for the best in the end.
So, for any of the other women out there who have been through a similar scenario, the bottom line is this: most guys love porn. It has nothing to do with you, it’s just what we do. You might as well watch it with him, enjoy some great sex, and give each other a high five afterwards. � Sean Fallon
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My boyfriend claims he has a low sex drive however, last year when he was studying at university I came across some porn in his history on the internet. This made me really confused, after discussing this with him, he admitted to watching it and exclaimed he was just bored. A year or two on and this still bothers me, he does appear to have a very low sex drive and I on the other hand do not-if not a considerably high sex drive. I just find it very hard to get to grips with the fact that some one of a low sex drive watched porn? He says he doesnt do it anymore but i feel the need to check up on him and it really is ruining our relationship; I have become very jelous and my self esteem is low. When sex with me is bought about he often says he is too tired or just not in the mood- however there are occassion when he really does get into it but then fails to perform i.e. prematurely ejaculates. I am only young and although i feel i have fallen in love with him i do not want to miss out on great sex as this is something that is important to me and i feel is important in a relationship ( he does not agree). I would really like some help.
Jenny: the help you require:
ignore it. he is being a normal guy.
though you may want to talk over why he’d prefer to look at it on the computer than to get with you… in a calm manner. if you can.
(it might be that after he’s … eheh… had a blowout with the interweb, there’s nothing left over. you’ll have to get to him earlier in the evening)
and there i’ll leave it…. hmm.
before i saw the comment, i only had two things in my mind —
1. who BOOKMARKS their dirt? that’s just asking for trouble. if you can’t remember the site’s address, or at least enough of its name to google for it, it can’t have been very good.
2. firefox 3. settings box to automatically clear “private information” when you shut down. ability to set different user profiles for privacy. USE THEM. even if it’s just in order to buy that perfect birthday/anniversary/christmas present online without leaving any trace.
regardless of gender anyone who would rather get themselves off rather than their partner— really shouldn’t have a partner who isn’t cool with that.
“DTMFA”